What Do You Really Want

What do you really want

The other day I was watching a T. Harv Eker webinar having to do with “Life Makeover”.  As an Entrepreneur, I have made that transition. However, after watching the webinar I find there are many uses for the information. I can find uses for it in projects, taking the next step in business as well as adding another revenue stream

If someone is transitioning from having a boss to being his or her own boss this information is a must.  Throughout time, I have heard similar concepts from various leaders, but each present it with their own perception and style. They all convey the same chant “WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT”. I am not going to be any different; I will use my own style and perception. It is just possible that you will get something out of this. You won’t know unless you read on.

Before we get started, there is one thing to realize; most people “FAIL” at getting what they want because they do not “KNOW” what they want. If they do know what they want, they do not know how to take that first step or which direction to proceed. In the next few paragraphs, I will provide steps that if you follow them you should be able to get started. Included will be examples. It is all up to you. What we are going to do IS SIMPLE BUT IT IS NOT EASY. It is all based on you and you being honest with yourself.

Answering the question, What do you really want

The goal in this step is to gain clarity and focus. This will give you power to continue. However, you must decide and define “What do you really want”. To assist you in this I am providing you some categories to refine your decision. Again, the goal is to get clarity and to keep things simple.

Category list with examples:

Finance

• Increase net profit
• Add a new source of income

Business

• Start or sell your own business
• Write a book, speak to audiences, create training
• Increase the number of members in the team

Career

• Get promoted, Change career
• Find a job you truly love
• Leave the job & work for yourself (start your own business)

Health & Wellness

• Lose / gain weight
• Improve eating habits (learning what to eat and how to prepare it)

Relationships

• Closer relation with significant other, children, siblings
• Spending more time quality time with the family

Recreation – something not related to business

• Take up some sport
• Entertainment such as movies, family outings,

Training

Personal / Personal environment / Spiritual

• Attend personal development training
• Cleaner & more organized office area
• Remodel home/room
• New home – same city, new city
• Practice Meditation

Professional Education

• Go to school for a higher education
• Attend professional training classes
• Attend training leaders and coaches / mentors

Services & Contribution

• Be in a position to give to charity and or donate time

Decision time

It is time to choose one thing from one category. Remember, the previous are examples that provide suggestions. It has to be something that you want. If you do not see something in the examples of categories, you may need to add it. Nonetheless, you must make a decision.

Decisions are what we do every day. Some are difficult to make while others are easy. Once you have written your decision, move forward to next step.

Why you want it

Great you made a “Decision” on what you want. It is one thing to know what you want and it is another to know why you want it? You need to understand the why. It provides you your motivation. The goal in this step is to write down why you want what you decided on in step 1.

If you do not know why you want what you want then how can you expect to succeed at getting what you want. This is the second reason most people fail, they do not know why they want what they want.

Four questions need to be answered before you can continue.

• Why is it important to me?
• What is the pain of not having or doing this now?
• What will it feel like when it comes to fruition?
• Why do I “NOT” already have what I want?

The Why

Without having the “Why” what level of motivation will there be? If you do not understand the pain of not having or the pleasure of having, you will have no reason to go after what you want and get it. Why do something if you do not have a reason for doing it?

Missing link to your success

In this step, we also want to ask ourselves the question as to why do we not already have what we want. This could be the missing link to your success. We know what we want and why we want it. Yet, we do not know why we do not have it or why we cannot get it. Many times when you review the answers to this question, you discover many excuses. It boils down to lack of discipline, confidence, the feeling of not being worthy, or all of the above. It could be simpler; you put a higher priority on other things compared to your own desires. You lose focus on your wants. Things are simple but they may not be easy.

The Strategy or Plan to get what we want

By reaching this step you know what you want, why you want it and don’t have it. It is now time to develop a strategy on how to get what you want. This results in a plan. It is your “HOW” you are going get what you want. In your current life you may need to make some changes. If you are on fence rail about making a change here is a quote to give some thought.

“IF You Always Do What You’ve Always Done, You Will Always Get What You’ve Always Gotten.” This quote is attributed to many (Tony Robbins, Albert Einstein, Henry Ford, and even Mark Twain)

Take Action

It’s now time to take that First Action. Many fail because the plan falls apart. It could be too much to do. You want something small to get the momentum going. You want to do the action, not think about it. Think less and do more. If you do not take this first action, you will remain at rest. So, this first action has to be doable and does not take long to complete. The goal is to build momentum. Once you get in motion, it is easier to keep in motion. If you are at rest then it is likely you will remain at rest. It’s time to write your first action. A reason for writing, it is most likely you will complete it. If you just think about it, most likely it will remain just that, a thought.

Commitment

The definition of commitment from Merriam-Webster is a promise to do or give something, a promise to be loyal to someone or something, the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support something. If you respect yourself then you will keep your word. Seeing it in writing will help you keep your word. In this step, you will create a declaration or promise to yourself.

Your declaration should follow this format.

I (full name) commit to (my first action) no matter what before this time tomorrow.

Reward

It is great to reward yourself when you complete something. This would be considered a short-term action so a small celebration or reward is granted. It is now time to decide on a reward to give to yourself when you complete your first action by this time tomorrow. Remember if the action is not completed as specified there is no reward.

Accountability

Somehow, you have to find way of holding yourself accountable. The best I have found is have someone else that will hold you “on the hook” for your actions. This could be a friend, a family member, a mentor, a coach, and so forth. You can try to hold yourself accountable but that is like having a wolf in the chicken house to watch over the chickens. It’s one thing to know what to do but it is another thing to do what you need to do. You need some way to track your progress.

I have provided you is a list of steps you need to follow to make a change in your life, career, or business. There is nothing earth shattering. What we do is simple but it is not easy. You decide on what you want. You understand why you want it. You create a plan to get it. You take action one step at a time and remain committed until you have it. Once you have it then you give yourself a reward. But above all the first you have to do is answer the question “What do you really want?”.

If you got something out of this post or if you just want to engage (network), leave me a comment. All comments are welcome and greatly appreciated. Also, please feel free to share.